I’M WORKING ON MY DIMMER SWITCH

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Exercise total for 5 days. 

500 Curls w/ 20 pound dumb bells

300 Shoulder raises/Chest presses w/ 10 pound dumb bells

900 Crunches

900 Leg lifts

300 Squats   

450 Back flexes

1:10 hour of yoga over 2 days

I had this entire thing written & trashed it all.  It was an unnecessary rant about anti-maskers.  What I will say about that is the following.  Nobody enjoys having to wear a mask.  I’m rarely out of the house during a month.  When I am in public I wear a mask not only for me but for everyone.  If you feel the need to rant about wearing a mask I’m OK with that…as long as you’re wearing a mask.  If you’re complaining about wearing a mask & not wearing one, I don’t need or want to hear it.  I personally don’t know anyone that falls into this category since they’re not worth my time right now.  Just please wear a mask, if you’re not, you’re a part of the problem.  You probably didn’t create the problem but you certainly aren’t helping solve it.  You are the weakest link & we’re all counting on you to do the right thing.

Saskatchewan got the news on Tuesday of restricted Covid protocol until December 17th 2020.  “Too little, too late” if you ask me.  Remember in the summer how so many people were just throwing caution & common sense to the wind along with their masks?  Well I hope they had fun then because family gatherings over the winter holidays are questionable right now.  Will I see my in-laws this December, will I see my immediate family this December, and will I see my grandparents this December?  Maybe, maybe, and probably not with Covid numbers skyrocketing everywhere.

I called it at the beginning of January.  2020 will be my year.  It’s been a stubborn, tough year & it’s not done yet.  I plan to be here long after 2020 though & this Covid stuff.  I’m ready to keep fighting if 2020 is going to keep ‘poking the bear’ (I’m the bear in this scenario).

I was scheduled to have an MRI at 10:45 pm tonight.  A 30 minute scan of a cyst in my back that has been there since my first MRI in 2008.  We talked to my doctor earlier this week.  I know I’m not invincible and I have no desire to go into a hospital, take off my mask & get shoved into a tube that’s just big enough for my shoulders to scrape the side during a pandemic for a very minor thing.  My doctor understood that & agreed.  I’ll be having my annual full MRI in May instead.  They’ll check out the long time cyst, my brain, & spine at that time.  A cyst won’t turn into a tumor.  I have a new doctor as of my last visit who wanted to learn more about it.

My life hasn’t changed at all because of Covid and I’m lucky in that way.  My life changed in 2008 because of cancer.  Initially it was REALLY rocky because of my incredible asshole reaction.  I’m far from perfect & always will be.  That doesn’t mean I’m just going to give up.  Those numbers that you probably skip by on Friday?  That’s my work over the course of a week, I’m proud of that & I’m not afraid of hard work.  Sure you might be thinking “Ah, it’s only 1-2 hours a day” & I’m not going to stop you from having that opinion.  You can call me whatever you want, anything goes at this point.  After I finish my exercise in the morning, I literally roll over on my side into the fetal position because I’m exhausted & sometimes sore.  I need to catch my breath & cool down.  After 2-5 minutes of rest I get up to do something around the house, get into the shower, eat, watch a little TV or play guitar.  I don’t have a slow speed.  If something needs to get done, I do it ASAP, why waste time thinking about it if I can figure out how to do it right away?

Now you might be thinking “Oh, big deal he said he’s playing guitar”.  It takes energy.  If I don’t have the energy, I play like crap and disappoint myself.  Because I beat myself up when I don’t do something well.  As I was telling my cousin over Facebook this earlier this week.  I don’t want to be good enough at everything, I want to be better than I was before I was put in a wheelchair.

Nobody can wave a magic wand & instantly make me better.  I’m the one that has to put in the work to be good enough and then better.  I’ve helped friends and family in the past and I’m helping where I can if needed or if I can be of assistance now.  I’m always patient with others.  If someone is helping me with something, I don’t want to waste their time.  I put a LOT of pressure on myself to do things right.

I had to ‘parent’ Brewster this week.  He won’t take his pills & he’s getting very stubborn about what he’ll eat.  I sat with him & had a little chat, I don’t think it worked?  “Look at me…nope…nope over here, look at me.  You need to eat your food & eat your treats.  If you can’t do that for us, this is what’s going to happen!  You have to be cute, furry, & cuddly for one week.  Now what’s it gonna be?  I’m not going to make you do both, you have to decide.  Will you eat your food now?  No?  OK, cute, furry & cuddly it is.  One week!  You’ve made your choice.”  Yes, I talk to my late 70s/early 80 year old dog like that.

I think everyone has an asshole gene in them.  It’s up to the individual as to when & how much they want it to shine.  I’m working on my dimmer switch for my asshole gene, it’s too bright.

Please wear a mask, and physically distance?  That’s EVERYONE’S job right now.

This week on guitar I haven’t been practicing songs.  The bulk of me playing guitar has been me applying and learning the DeLorean/Doryan/Dorian (actual spelling) mode, as well as memorizing the pentatonic scale.  That’s a LOT of music theory, my brain hurts from actually using whatever is left in there.  This will be a long time before I can say that I know it.  It sort of makes sense yet it’s hazy right now.

Pentatonic scale(s) is memorized as of Thursday.  Now I’m got the basics of the “Finding Doryan” or “DeLorean” mode as of Thursday night.  Today I’m just focusing on getting my pentatonic scale/shapes/pattern down & a song.  It’s as though I took a glance into Pandora’s Box and thought “I should make 1 thing solid before I dive into 5 other ones?”  My brain feels like mashed potatoes now?!?! 

Here I am at 11:20 pm after lying in bed thinking about scales too much that I came in to practice the 5 patterns in a pentatonic scale!  Geeking out much?  YEP!

“Nothing but Thieves” gave into high demand from fans to release their orchestral version of the song “Impossible” earlier this week.  When I purchase this album over the holidays, I intend to add this single to the album.  I don’t listen to singles or EPs under 5 songs.  I add them to albums.

“Dead Sara” released a single this week.  I hear a BIG “Nirvana” influence in their music.

“I feel good about the good things, & bad about the bad things”-David Grohl 

We’re all Global Citizens,

Chris 

“Spread love” –Ellen Degeneres 

FANTASTIC WEEK!

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Exercise total for 5 days. 

500 Curls w/ 20 pound dumb bells

300 Shoulder raises/Chest presses w/ 10 pound dumb bells

900 Crunches

900 Leg lifts

300 Squats   

450 Back flexes

1:15 hour of yoga over 2 days

Little delay today.  The building manager & fire Marshall were checking the sprinklers & fire alarms in each suite this morning.  This happens once a year.

Great week for me!  Exercise went REALLY well & I felt very productive/accomplished on guitar too.  I learned the “Alter Bridge” song by mid-week & relearned “Learn to fly” & “Razor” by Foo Fighters by the end of Tuesday.  I just keep playing new songs over & over until it becomes automatic.  Relearning a song I’ve played 100s of times before gets boring but I know I need to do it.  To keep the tempo I sing the melody in my head or hum along if I can.  “Alter Bridge” is a new thing to me on guitar other than their song “Find the Real” most Foo Fighters’ songs I’ve played & sang quite a bit, although I have been learning “Rope” that was released in April of 2011 while I was in my rehabilitation program.

I’ve never attempted singing “Addicted to Pain” so I count the beats.  Pretty busy on guitar to sing along with…even just in my head!

Foo Fighters’ album ‘There is Nothing Left to Lose’ was released in November of 1999.  My grandmother died of cancer on December 5th, 1999.  I almost wore out the CD, with ‘Learn to Fly’ on it, that December.  It was my 3rd semester of University & I didn’t want to do anything after she died.  I would blast that album in my used 1989 Ford Tempo & drive 45 minutes away to the closest city, Moose Jaw, & back to kill time.  I’ve heard, played, & sang ‘Learn to Fly’ 100s of times.

I’ve been playing ‘Razor’ quite a bit & ‘Addicted to Pain’ a lot to memorize them both ‘Razor’ is memorized & ‘Addicted to Pain’ is new to me and just busy in general.  VERY satisfying though!

I think we can add a 1959 Gibson Les Paul reissue to my “never going to happen” list.  That’s why I’m saving for the much more affordable PRS S2 McCarty 594.

I will confess that I had a coffee on Tuesday since I didn’t sleep well Monday night.  That’s my 3rd coffee since the end of May!  I don’t know what my resting heart rate is now?  While I was doing exercise therapy, my therapist would check my pulse before & after my 30 minute workout first thing in the morning.  I think it was in the mid-90s per minute before my exercise without coffee?   

Kim heard on Wednesday that October is “Disability Employment Awareness Month”.  In Saskatchewan anyways.  We were talking about me getting a part time online job Tuesday night.  I’m definitely up for that type of job.  I could still get my exercise done in the morning & work 4 hours in the afternoon or even work 2 ½ full days if needed.  Minimum wage in Saskatchewan is $11.45, I could do that for a bit of extra cash & having an actual purpose while contributing to society!  I’d rather be useful than dependent.

Even without a job & minimal TV the days just seem to be too short.  Weeks seem OK, & 2020 isn’t over yet?!?!  BALLS!  I’m awake by 7:30 am, shower between 11-12 depending on the day, play guitar, hang out with Kim, she goes to bed at 9:30-10:00 pm, & I typically go to bed between 11:00 pm to midnight.  I sleep in on Saturday.  Sunday I’m usually making my vegetable juice, eggs, & fish for the week.  Brewster will bark at us around 8:00 pm from the bedroom meaning he wants up on the bed.  Kim puts him up there, but he comes out to the living room 10-30 minutes later. “Who needs Sleep?”

I had a psychiatrist appointment & all is going really well.  He asked about my typical day & was happy to hear about.  Last time that I saw him I was prescribed a small dose of anti-depressants/sleeping pills, I told him that they seem to help most of the time.  He was happy to hear that too.  Really nice guy and very personable.  Came out to the waiting room to say hi, helped with the doors out of the building even.

Yesterday was Kim’s birthday.  Covid birthday.  Ordered in food, my parents brought over mine & Brewster’s gift to her while she was at work today & my dad drove me to my appointment about the time Kim was close to finishing work for the day.  She told me last night that she has today off, so we stayed up later than usual.  She wanted to relax & just watch some Netflix for a while after we had supper, so that was her Covid birthday.  Kim actually took Brewster out for a bit this morning to avoid the loud high pitched smoke alarms going off this morning.

I compared Ellen’s apology to Donald Trump’s response to sexual assault accusations, there’s a BIG difference in my opinion.  Ellen admits quite a bit that she avoids tabloids regarding her & her show.  She also calls herself a “…work in progress…”  Donald Trump was born in 1946 and hasn’t changed since.  All he ever says is how he’s so perfect at EVERYTHING!  I think we’re all a work in progress.  You’re not going to wake up one day and think “Oh, I’m perfect!  I guess I can stop evolving”.  The world is still spinning you might want to keep up?!

I’m suffering from “Trump Fatigue”.  I’ve recorded the debate & I’ll watch the “Borat” movie on Amazon Prime at some point this weekend, then I don’t need to see anymore until after the election results are given.  Then I can get drunk & forget what happened if Trump wins & pray or keep on keeping on with more optimism than usual if Biden wins.

This looks interesting.  I’m mostly deaf in my right ear from listening to LOUD rock & metal bands live.

YAY, “Nothing but Thieves” 3rd album “Moral Panic” is out today!  The first 2 albums & 4 song EP didn’t disappoint me in the least!

“I feel good about the good things, & bad about the bad things”-David Grohl 

We’re all Global Citizens,

Chris 

“Spread love” –Ellen Degeneres 

YOU’LL MAKE IT, THIS WILL PASS…EVENTUALLY.  KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!

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I fell asleep to “Barenaked Ladies” the album “Gordon”

I exercised to “Chromeo” the album “Head Over Heels”

 

I REALLY need to stop watching/reading videos & reviews on this SE model PRS!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QHrn3qpout8 “A breakthrough in pickup design”

“…huge P 90 sound…” BONUS right there!  These pickups don’t have the LOUD annoying hum that vintage P90 pickups are known for.

P90 double coil pickups for guitars were developed by Gibson in 1946.  They’re known for having a LOUD hum.  After that multiple double coil pickups were created without the hum and are now called _______ Humbuckers

The TCI pickups are only available in the guitars above.  I’m a casual fan of John Mayer’s music although he is a great guitarist “Born & Raised” is a GREAT album.  If he & Paul Reed Smith were involved in creating these pickups, I’m all in!

Yeah, I’m streaming music now & cutting back on whatever I can to get this SE aqua PRS.  I’ve researched & this is the best bang for my cash, & it has the different bells & whistles I’m looking for.  Hopefully within 2 or 3 years I’ll be able to get one, if they’re still making them?  Kim’s undecided if she wants to go on a trip.  If she decides she wants to, at least I’ll have some cash to help out.  Sure the TCI “S” pickups in the SE model don’t sound exactly the same as the TCI pickups in the Core model, but a Core model is WAY over any amount I could think of for a guitar.  Like a minimum of $4900 + tax!!!!!!!??????

SE Paul's Guitar - Aqua

I continue to look at other guitars, but nothing measures up to this one!  I’ve looked at Washburn, Gibson, Epiphone, Fender, Squier, Jackson, ESP, LTD, Yamaha, Music Man, Guild, Gretsch, Dean, Indio, Godin, Warmoth, Peavy, Ibanez, B.C. Rich, Chapman, Kiesel, Charvel, Tokai, Sahana, companies I’ve never heard of from places I’ve never heard of, & after all of that searching & researching I’m sticking with PRS.  The others aren’t bad by any means but I can’t play more than 6 electric guitars, so it might as well be the right one.  PRS, while expensive, have won me over as a company that pays close attention to detail.

Despite all of this talk about a future guitar purchase, I am SUPER PUMPED about the guitar I ordered in January with 85/15 “S” pickups.  PRS reproduced a pickup built in 1985 exactly & mass produced for certain guitars in 2015 hence 85/15 “S”.  The “S” just means they’re made in the oversea factory, which I believe is in Indonesia now.

https://www.prsguitars.com/index.php/electrics/model/s2_custom_22_semi_hollow_2020

Want to know why certain types of wood are chosen for certain parts of a guitar build?  Pull this video to the 8:40 minute mark and let Mr. Paul Reed Smith take you to school with a wooden xylophone!

Maple and mahogany are likely the most expensive woods used.  The SE line has a paper thin amount of maple, S2 line has ¼ inch, & the uber expensive Core line has ½ inch of maple on the top of the body.  The maple is baked in an oven @ 350F to remove any fluid from the wood, it is then glued to the body made of mahogany, then cut to the shape.

https://www.long-mcquade.com/124878/Guitars/Electric-Guitars/Paul-Reed-Smith/SE-Paul-s-Guitar—Aqua.htm

I just had a FANTASTIC idea!  The “Paul’s Guitar” SE costs $1300 + tax in Canada.  If all of you BEAUTIFUL & WONDERFUL people send me $5 I’ll be well on my way to getting this guitar!  I’m so SMRT!  Subscribers & casual readers feel free to pitch in!  My website tells me I have 207 subscribers, I’m quite positive the subscriber amount is far less (180?), so send in the cash!   I can’t even type it with a straight face!  HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!  Keep your money!

Sunday evening I realized I need to kick this guitar stuff up a notch!  The first time I learned was because of “Foo Fighters”-“The Colour & the Shape” album.  I learned about 10/13 songs.  I’ve already got 2 ½ down, might as well learn the rest of the album & a few other songs.  I just need to focus on smaller portions of a song & put them together.  Intro, verse, chorus, bridge, solo, & the outro.  Learn each part & put it together.  Finish one or two songs, play them through each session & learn another.  Foo Fighters are great for learning rhythm & more!  Here I come!  This likely won’t happen as fast as I’d like it to, but it’s the most familiar stuff to me.  It’s not a matter of knowing what I’m doing, it’s more strengthening the muscles I need to do it.  The more I learn, the easier the next song becomes to learn.

I could be bitter & angry that I can’t do something I love as well as I used to be able to.  Being that upset & angry would get me nowhere.  I know that if I work at it, it’ll eventually come to me.  How do I know?  I said I was going to learn this song…

…as of Saturday I have the main riff & verse down.  It took me longer than I thought but I made it happen & it was completely new to me.  You’ve got more time than you’ll ever have (unless you have young kids), you can be angry that you’re stuck inside or use your time to focus on something positive & productive.  Whatever you end up doing, the choice is up to YOU.

In order to make some type of segue to the following Covid-19 stuff.  We’re all being told repeatedly to stay indoors, stay 6 or more feet away from others, & wash our hands.  You know what gets my hand muscles loose & ready to play guitar?  Washing my hands with warm soapy water!

Other than that, let’s get real for a bit.  Covid-19 is EVERYWHERE!  I very rarely listen to the radio.  I turned it on while sitting in the vehicle waiting for Kim & there was nothing but Covid-19 news.  I’m really tired of being told to stay inside, but I understand the need to get that out into the world.  There are likely numerous people who disobey the rules.  We could all sit around & call them names or hope they realize that they’re not just putting themselves at risk, but so many others as well.

I know it’s odd for most people to go with very little human contact & it can really bum a person out.  Almost everyone has a cell phone, a tablet, internet, face time, skype, zoom, etc.  If you’ve got it, you wanted it, now use it.  I thought nobody wanted to talk to anybody anymore “I’ll text you”.  Good luck, I don’t have a lot of that stuff, I don’t want it.  I call people or email them to see how they’re doing.  A lot of people have all of these ways to contact and interact with others but everyone’s depressed without human contact.  Might as well use what you have.

Remember that despite the efforts of others, your mood & attitude all boil down to what YOU make of the situation you’re in.  This is your time to decide if you can make it better for you & those around you or bring everyone around you down.  A friend, companion, spouse, therapist, etc. they can give you the tools to achieve what you want.  In the end YOU have to put those tools to use & make a difference to yourself.

Donald Trump estimates 100,000 – 240,000 deaths in America.  No one wants to see that or anywhere near that amount of deaths.  To avoid this & save lives is EXACTLY why everyone should listen to the health officials.

TO BE CLEAR I AM NOT A HEALTH OFFICIAL!  LISTEN TO THE ACTUAL PROFESSIONALS!

I mentioned that “I don’t want a guitar slapped together in a panic”.  More importantly I meant to say that I don’t want to see the death toll rise for any reason or excuse.  I can wait for a guitar, life is FAR more important!  My guitar was ordered on January 15th, it’ll get hear eventually.

Everybody wants instant gratification, I’m just as guilty of that as anyone.  My guitar was supposed to be here this month, as of March 2nd it was delayed until August.  I’m positive that with this virus stuff it’ll be delayed even more.  I’d like it to be here already, I’ll likely appreciate it more when it gets here because I’ve had to wait that much longer.  I know they have my order & waiting won’t hurt me.

Kim went to get groceries on the weekend.  I can’t tell you what life is like out there?  As the day progressed Kim’s mood went down.  She’s the cheerful optimistic one in this relationship.  It really started to bother her and I could understand why as she told me about the protocol at the grocery store.  All I could do was hold her.  Probably didn’t help that we finished “The Morning Show” on Apple TV+.  Great show, sad ending.

Kim, Brewster & I went for a drive on Sunday evening to roll down the windows & get some fresh air, made a HUGE difference.

KEEP YOUR CHIN UP!!!!  IT’LL GET WORSE BEFORE IT GETS BETTER.   

 

I’ve got a handful of album releases I’m waiting for this year.  There are 2 that have release dates.  “Trivium” – “What the Dead Men Say” on April 24th & “Lamb of God” – “Lamb of God” on May 8th!  My sister-in-law’s birthday, followed by our 15th Anniversary, & then a Friday with some new “Lamb of God”

More album release dates to come that I’m waiting for anxiously!

“Testament” released a new album on Friday, I need to give it a good listen still.  I’ve listened to it sporadically over the weekend and really like it (Thrash Metal).  I don’t post reaction thoughts though, I still need to digest this one a bit!

 

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“I feel good about the good things, & bad about the bad things”-David Grohl

We’re all Global Citizens,

Chris

“Be kind to one another”-Ellen Degeneres

THE 1980s & 1990s ARE WHHAA?

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I fell asleep to “A Perfect Circle” the album “Eat the Elephant”

I exercised to “Ben Harper & the Innocent Criminals” the album “Burn to Shine”

 

Brewster setup shop on my exercise mat this morning.  I just stayed there with him to scratch his neck, he’s getting old & I’ll really miss those little moments.

Perhaps “Paul’s Guitar” in 20 years?  99.9% chance of a maybe on the off chance I’m not happy with the guitar coming in August, which I highly doubt, if this model still comes with pickups that are different than what I own, if I choose to sell a few of the guitars I own, maybe there will be something better, hopefully the price is lower than $1300 for a low end guitar at the time, in the end probably not?  There will likely be a trip within the next two years & a house hopefully within the next 5 years, so a guitar = probably not.  Remember that as long as Brewster’s OK, then the guitar MIGHT happen?  I’m pretty well off in that department even now before I get my new one in August.  Crappé it’s only March!

Regular season baseball begins on Thursday, March 26th.  I’ll be relatively glued to our TV until the beginning of October.  The Blue Jays likely won’t be in the playoffs but I predict they’ll finish the season with a record of 75W-87L or 83W-79L games out of the 162 regular season games.  I think they won 67 games last year.  The first 2 months we’re older players that gradually disappeared for younger/potentially better players to take their spot throughout the season.

We picked up some toilet paper on the weekend.  It wasn’t because of what you think.  We just like to keep our butts clean, & the shelves were full of toilet paper, that or Kim’s “Magic”!

After seeing “The Weeknd” on SNL & tours that have been announced I can confirm: the 1980s synth pop sound is coming back.

“Barenaked Ladies” are hitting the road with “Toad the wet Sprocket” & “Gin Blossoms”.  “Matchbox Twenty” are taking “The Wallflowers” with them on tour.  The Canadian 1990s & early 2000s rock scene is getting a shot in the arm with 4 bands touring Canada this summer.  “Moist”, “The Tea Party”, “Big Wreck”, & “Headstones”

I’m thinking some stairs should be happening tonight?

 

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SMOTHERED & HUEY LEWIS AND THE NEWS

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I fell asleep to “Finger Eleven” the Self-Titled album

I exercised to “Pink” the album “Hurts 2B Human”

 

Kim is done with her teeth now.  YAY, dentist bill.  The hits just keep on coming.  She was still numb from the freezing on Monday & crashed in bed with Brewster.  Next, some tests for Brewster’s heart murmur, then whatever medication he needs.  Now we are actively house hunting.  I just lay in bed & see $$$$$ floating away, then Christmas is coming

Brewster has been surprisingly active lately up & about, wandering around & wanting to play.  He’s been sleeping 23 ½ hours a day the past year & a bit.

I’m currently dealing with a bladder infection.  No pain since I drink so much water.  When I have to pee though, get out of the way because I’ll burst within a minute.  Because of this I’ve had to cut back on my fluid intake lately.

Another blood test coming up to see if I require one of my medications.  I’m guessing I’ll still need that medication as time goes on.  Then I see the cancer doctor next year sometime again.  MRI first & then the appointment.  She was suspended, not fired.  I hope she learned how to treat patients?  MRI & that appointment are the last 2 things I look forward to doing now.

I’m fine, how long do we have to treat me like a crystal ornament?  Will I be safer if I’m wrapped in bubble wrap?  This is getting old, & I have other things to do.  How about I get checked out when something feels off?  I’ll go in annually for a blood test & an MRI, if the doctors see something they don’t like, then I’ll go.  That would work better for me.  I could spend that time exercising, cooking, practicing guitar, hanging out with friends, visiting their kids, cleaning, get a job, etc.

I’m getting REALLY tired of people treating me like a rare jewel, can I be a normal guy for ½ a second?  Sometimes I feel smothered.  Which can be both a blessing & a curse.  I can’t clear my throat twice in a row without at least 3 people asking me if I’m OK.  If I cough more than once, HOLY CRAP I must be dying!  I get it, but it’s annoying.  It’s been going on since I left my rehabilitation program July of 2012.

 

Here comes Halloween.  13 musicians/groups that actually scared people.

https://www.kerrang.com/features/13-artists-who-actually-scared-people/?utm_campaign=loudwire&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook&influencer=true&fbclid=IwAR3JpbXQKrfDYRVZq0IvUdJKzYW0MJ6b6xNXui_CljZWsoy5RRIiXXCmQa4

I’ve never been scared at a concert.  The most entertaining ‘Shock Rocker’ show I’ve ever seen was Rob Zombie.  Alice Cooper was more about the music than shocking people when I saw him 15 years ago.

New video from The Struts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

More importantly how is James Hetfield’s alcohol rehab going?

https://loudwire.com/metallica-2020-festival-hack-countdown/?fbclid=IwAR1evFHJoold4XKwEhGHhEOpQQRCzW_PB3jDVhRVkDc6WryOtDOJmx_2UVI

I can’t believe this album is 25 years old!  That means I’m getting old!  I was in “grade 9” at the time.

 

HUEY LEWIS AND THE NEWS

Yes, I still listen to them.  I still like to hear horns on a rock album, same deal with Bruce Springsteen.  That’s a very rare sound on almost any album.  I’ve got a TON of Huey Lewis & The News” albums, so I won’t put a song from each album.  They release a new album last week, no I didn’t get it.  It’s just not the same.

Seems like keyboards/synthesizers are making a comeback on rock albums now too.  I’m good with keyboards as long as they don’t go full on “Tom Sawyer” by Rush.

Anyways, here’s some of “Huey Lewis & The News” Hits from back in the day.

From the movie “Back to the Future” check it out kids.  Legendary trilogy!

 

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WEEKEND UPDATE & A CONCERT UPDATE

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Music throughout the weekend.  “Limblifter”, “Iron Maiden”, “Foo Fighters”, “In Flames”, & “Big Wreck”

LANGUAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I’m not giving up on the house yet!  According to the doctors I should be dead.  Well the house isn’t completely sold yet & I’m not dead!

We spent Friday evening at my parents’ place.  Surprise birthday there for my grandparents.  My two sets of aunt & uncles came from Alberta as a surprise, my aunt’s parents & our family friend Lori, Mitch & Rachel, & my great aunt & uncle from Winnipeg.  My grandparents love turkey dinner, so that was supper. One week before Canadian Thanksgiving blah.  Tis the season for turkey suppers.  The only good thing about a turkey supper for me are turnips & other veggies.  The turkey needs to be in a bunwhich with pepper, little bit of mayo, & maybe some hot mustard.  Stuffing & gravy are great, but I don’t eat them.

I tried to avoid the pie, cake, cupcakes, & butter tarts.  I caved & had 2 butter tarts & a cupcake.  I’m not on a diet, just watching what I eat VERY closely.

Easter, Thanksgiving, & Christmas, each involves a turkey supper.  If I never see a turkey supper again that’d be fine by me.  I despise mashed or baked potatoes too!  I should have people donate my meal to a homeless shelter!  Much better idea, give it to someone that would appreciate it!  Dag nam it I’m smrt sometimes!

WOO HOO!  The Saskatchewan Roughriders are now in first place in the west, thanks to Montreal beating Calgary & Saskatchewan beating Winnipeg 21-6.  Glad I was there to see it in person but WOW that wind was cold.  Should’ve worn wool socks over my regular socks.  Toque & gloves were a good decision.  Got in the vehicle to leave & the weather went from clear & sunny to dark & cloudy in about 4 minutes!  Lots of coffee, tea, & hot chocolate all around us at the game.

 

Just because they’re rock & metal artists doesn’t they won’t help when needed?

https://loudwire.com/slash-ozzy-osbourne-more-anti-bullying-documentary-song/?fbclid=IwAR1ULvBikvcUFI6JStfp8Db2cxUsBQNOjiD0Jl9kgxFBjxqLxFWMP0UEUMk

 

The Watchmen

We went to see The Watchmen Sunday evening at Casino Regina.  Great concert as always!  Big Wreck, Barenaked Ladies, & The Watchmen are the 3 Canadian bands I never miss when they come through Regina, at least since I turned 19.  My first concert was Barenaked Ladies at the age of 12 with my family.  Anyways this is some of what they played, in no particular order….

They’ve toured all over the world but I think they only gained fame in their homeland of Canada.  They stopped recording after their fifth album released in 2001.  They do tour on occasion, not enough!  The albums are great!  WWWAAAYYY better live though!

 

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WEEKEND UPDATE/BEDOUIN SOUNDCLASH

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Music throughout the weekend.  “Finger Eleven”, “Paramore”, “Nothing But Thieves”, “Tool”, “Barenaked Ladies”, & “Slayer”

 

Our “niece” came over Friday night for a sleep over at “auntie” Kim’s & “uncle” Chris’.  They went shopping & bought the necessary stuff to make her slime glittery & cool looking for her.  While they were out shopping, I hung out with Brewster & watched the baseball game.  The kids (Toronto Blue Jays) will be fine in a couple of years, home runs everywhere.

I woke up Saturday morning & had breakfast with Kim & Hannah.  They went shopping again, for a variety of things.

I had a realization when they left & I was doing the dishes.  I become a Dad OMG!  I’m the guy that says “Hannah” in that dad disciplinary tone.  Before they went to bed Friday, Hannah & I watched some Bugs Bunny & Elmer Fudd cartoons.  It was part of that “Oh I can do this now” realization.

The thing that got me was, when she was dropped off here on Friday, her little brother, who is one & 1/2 , saw me on the couch, ran up to me & gave me a hug while smashing his forehead into my mouth.  He was fine, I was in minor pain for a few seconds.  Then he just stood there holding my hand for a while.  That was unexpected & melted me.  Later on Friday I went up to Hannah & said “What the heck?  Your brother gave me a hug, what about you?”  I got a hug & another one when they went shopping Saturday morning.  Yes, I have Saskatchewan Roughrider green finger nails at the moment & my left hand has sparkly green nail polish on the nail.  Both are very close to the 2 shades of green on my wheelchair.

So why don’t we have a child?  TONS of work in the beginning, much easier now.

Kim & I spent the rest of the day on the couch.  We watched “Avengers: Endgame”, Kim watched the show “Life in Pieces” on Netflix.  I did fixed some files on iTunes.  We went to bed early at 10:00 pm.

Today I went to see “Spiderman Far From Home” with Mitch & Rachel.  I already have my eggs boiled, my juice made, & my laundry folded.  Kim went for groceries on Saturday & has some stuff of her’s to deal with on her side of the bedroom, which I can’t get to.

DO NOT WATCH UNLESS YOU HAVE SEEN AVENGERS: ENDGAME!!!

Great movie!  I’m not giving any spoilers away though!

 

“Slayer” must be a little too scary for NASCAR.  That’s OK, sometimes they’re a bit too much for me!

https://loudwire.com/slayer-pulled-from-nascar-sponsorship/?fbclid=IwAR0V7zfJIygzxUiTkpUa2bdF4WlOqyNp2LJCKJcCKwVNuxC_TRWNXoanzLI

YAY Led Zeppelin!

https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/justice-department-led-zeppelin-stairway-to-heaven-873059/?fbclid=IwAR3-_OfHfBjY5QhqFcY-nh5krVCaPWGzuFSUhrn6FggLibQhXHX8vkMlC_Q

Only in Eastern Canada, not anywhere West of Ontario!  It’s quiet in Western Canada, literally!  Frogs & crickets at night in the smaller towns.

https://loudwire.com/iconic-historic-rock-metal-festival-lineups/?fbclid=IwAR06xSHfhpMPm0JS_T2opPjJdln4HUc9qVLXK2m9-LZlTQ16GhllcD3kO6c

 

BEDOUIN SOUNDCLASH

Our friends got married to one of their songs.  Honestly, that’s why I know who they are.  I only own 2 of their albums out of how many, I don’t know?  They’re a ska band.  A trio out of Toronto I believe.  Catchy for sure.  I started listening to them again a couple of months ago.

 

2004   SOUNDING A MOSAIC

 

2007   STREET GOSPELS

 

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EXERCISE WEEKLY TOTAL/IN FLAMES ALBUM REVIEW

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I fell asleep to “In Flames” the album “I, The Mask”

I exercised to “Chromeo” two albums on shuffle.

5 day exercise total; 400 pushups, 600 leg lifts, 300 crunches, 200 tricep lifts, 450  squats, 300 back flexes.

The exercise is horrible until I get my butt in gear & get it done & out of the way, then I feel good & feel I’ve accomplished something.  It’s not something physical I can really show anyone though.

EX: My mother didn’t really understand what my job was.  I told her I was a printing press operator, she still didn’t fully understand.  I took her the first sheet of paper you set up & see how far off the colour is, & how far I needed to get the metal plates to move so it all lined up.  Then I took her a final sheet of paper from the same job once it was done & explained what I had to do to get it that way.

I worked at a console to the press.  I could manipulate each of the 4 or 5 colours from there to move them or allow the right amount of colour to a certain area.  Once I was done a job, I had something tangible/physical/material to look at & think to myself “Hey, I helped make that.”

I can’t really show what I do now.  I’m pretty tired for the rest of the day, I sit on the couch & watch some TV until I feel the motivation to shower or until I just can’t stand being sweaty & smelly.  I certainly don’t want to do anymore exercise other than some walking when Kim gets home to help me.

My cousin’s in town!  Went to my parents’ place on Tuesday afternoon.  A game, Chinese food for supper (wasn’t even oily), some TV, & left with my belated birthday gift…………..wait for it……………………oatmeal chocolate chip cookies & the blu-rays I lent to my cousins.  My mom & cousin baked them on Monday for me.  My grandmother’s “recipe”.  “Add a little more of this & an extra dash of this until the dough feels right”- Grandma.  My grandparents met each other while she was working as a baker at a bakery & he was delivering from the bakery.

I had a HORRIBLE day on Thursday.  A pity party for one, I just sobbed for a while & asked myself “When will this cancer crap all end?”  I’m tired & stressed & Kim is too.  It feels like a continual pile of bull**** being dumped on us that we can’t get out of, so we never take an extended break from what we do.  I exercise & she busts her butt working while also taking an evening class that’s once a week immediately after work.

I’m glad I survived cancer, but I’m INCREDIBLY sick of the nonsense & crap that comes with it after in my & Kim’s situation.  I exercise 5 days a week & when the f*** does that help.  I’m not going to chase a dream that’s unrealistic for the rest of my life.  To say this is getting old is an understatement!  I want the pill that Robin Williams wanted, called “F*** it all”.  I’m not about to give up, but I’ll never be whatever the hell “normal” is!  If it’s coming, it’s really f***ing slow.  I was EXTREMELY frustrated!  This is nobody’s fault, but I always feel like it’s mine, ALWAYS!

I think God & Satan got together & said “Hey, let’s mess with the guy who has manic depression.  It’ll be fun!”  I have a better idea, how about you don’t?

 

10 bands that influenced me & made me want to sing & play guitar.  U2, Barenaked Ladies, I Mother Earth, Nirvana, Foo Fighters, Big Wreck, The Watchmen, Matthew Good Band, Tool, Led Zeppelin, & Queen.  Many more!

Yes I’m well aware that is 11 bands but I had to get Led Zeppelin in there.

I could never play fast, some of these are guitar influences, and the others are voice influences.

 

IN FLAMES REVIEW OF “I, THE MASK”

FANTASTIC album somewhat of a return to the earlier albums.  Still hardcore fans say it’s more of a rock album & complain about this album.  I think they want “In Flames” to just make duplicates of “The Jester Race”, not going to happen!  That album was released in 1997, I think it’s time the complaining fans jump ship if that’s what they want?

I didn’t get into “In Flames” until I saw them live in 2006?  The final tour for the traveling metal 3-4 hour extravaganza “Sounds of the Underground” tour in Saskatoon.

Yes, their last 2 releases were quite tame “Siren Charms” 2014 & “Battles” 2016 were pretty mellow as far as metal albums go, I really like “Siren Charms” though.

This new album “I, The Mask” is great from the Swedish melodic death metal group.  The first half is more like their old stuff & the second half is mellower.  Here are a few of my favourite songs from the album….

 

FRIDAY MARCH 1ST 2019 RELEASE “I, THE MASK” BY IN FLAMES

 

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WEEKEND UPDATE/LYNYRD SKYNYRD

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Music throughout the weekend.  “Dead Sara”, “Barenaked Ladies”, “Testament”, & “Matthew Good Band”

 

Friday ended with us watching “Hannah Gadspy” a Tasmanian comedienne.  It was more of a “Ted Talk” with humour added.  She spoke about what had gotten her to this point in her life, sexual abuse, 2 rapes, being a lesbian, coming out of the closet, etc.  Very entertaining.  She went on a rant at the end.  Kim was crying.  Lots of highs & lows throughout the show.  Really good show!  Quite a few “F – Bombs” throughout the show though.  None in this trailer though…

Saturday we went out in the afternoon Kim needed to take some photos for her photo class, dropped off Brewster & I.  She went for groceries.  I got this post started.  Kim came home with the groceries so I got moving & made my vegetable juice for the week.

Saturday evening we ordered in some Chinese food for supper & rented the movie “Boy Erased” about a son who is gay & his father is a pastor at a Christian Church.  The movie starts out with the son going to his first of 12 days at a conversion center.  I think this movie would be great if you also watch the movies “Red State” & “Spotlight”.  “Red State” could be difficult to watch with all of the language & violence.  “Boy Erased” is based on a true story.  I think every religious leader needs to wake up & see this movie.

I believe in God & consider myself a Christian. You know that part in the bible that says ‘…bring us your rich, poor, weak, & strong etc…’  Do we have to spell it out for others?  Do we need to adjust it to say “Everyone” including the LGBTQ community?  I really don’t care if you’re a part of a different religion, race, or sexuality or anything else.  Are you a good person?  If you are let’s hang out & be friends.

I was fired up watching that movie.  A lot of me commenting on the utter fear/stupidity of all of the homophobic characters.  It’s from 2018 and finishes saying there are still 700,000 conversion camps still in operation.  I don’t believe that sexuality is a choice, I believe it’s how you were born.  I didn’t choose to be straight, that’s how I was born.   Who makes gay people?  Straight people!

Woke up for lunch when Kim popped her head in the bedroom & said she was going to “Tim Horton’s”.  She’s done the laundry I believe, just eggs to hard boil & Kim wants to take some pictures in the house.  She left for “Tim Horton’s” & Brewster found that to be the perfect time to throw up twice once I made my way into the kitchen.  Poor guy, at least he knew to get off of his blanket & bed to throw up on the laminate floor.

 

Metal screaming is not easy.  You may not like it, but don’t say it’s easy!

 

I’ll believe it when I see it.  Does this mean Tool will start thinking about song ideas?

Just had to watch “Trivium” accept “Grammy Nominee Awards” of screen.  I’m assuming this is because they are a metal group, so they aren’t main stream music, ugh!

 

 

LYNYRD SKYNYRD

I will get to see them this year here in Regina!  I can’t wait!  When I was working I’d put on my iPod & just go.  One “Dream Theater” album “Systematic Chaos” was just released & “Lynyrd Skynyrd’s” double album of ‘Greatest Hits’ & I was good for 5 – 6 hours.  I’ll see them & my parents are anxious to see Randy Bachman.  I’ve been a ‘Lynyrd Skynyrd’ fan for a while, since 2006 or so.  All I have is their Greatest Hits album though.

 

 

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WEEKEND UPDATE/PENTATONIX

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Music throughout the weekend. “Alice in Chains”, “The Pretty Reckless”, “Halestorm”, & “Dead Sara”

LANGUAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I got a new water bottle a few weeks ago that hold 1 liter of water.  I have dry mouth.  If I don’t have something to drink or sugarless gum to chew on.  I drink a minimum of 3 liters of water a day if not 6 liters a day.  If I’m going somewhere that evening, I keep it at 3 liters.  Most days it’s 4 or 5 liters then I’ll go to the washroom once or twice in the middle of the night.  I usually chew sugarless gum at the Saskatchewan Roughriders games!

We stayed in again Friday night.  Watched the Toronto Blue Jays lose……..again to the New York Yankees 11-0 or 12-0, I can’t remember?  Then we binge watched 3 episodes of “The Fosters” on Netflix.

Saturday we binge watched more of “The Fosters” during the day.  I went to a Saskatchewan Roughriders game vs. the visiting Ottawa Redblacks.

Dear Saskatchewan Roughriders,

The game clock started 56 minutes ago.  I’d like to see you demonstrate an offensive touchdown instead of relying on special teams & your field goal kicker?

Sincerely,

Me.

 

 

How disrespectful is that?????????????????????????????????????

 

Or you could just get a decent amplifier.  Guitar players are always searching for the perfect tone.  Guess what, it’s very hard to find, unless you’re lucky!  Find an amp that you’re 80% happy with.  Then there’s no need for any type of distortion pedal.  The guitar & amp are far more important than effect pedals, especially distortion & reverb pedals!

 

I have different bands, but that’s basically my shirt collection along with a few golf shirts & long sleeve shirts!

https://www.kerrang.com/features/the-13-best-heavy-metal-t-shirts-of-all-time-ranked/?utm_campaign=loudwire&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook&influencer=true

 

Certainly not my list “Rush”, “Tool”, “Led Zeppelin” & “Lamb of God” so far down the list?  I’ve never seen “Rush” or “Led Zeppelin” live.  From the many acts, rock & metal acts, I have seen live.  “Tool” & “Queen” would be at the top of my list.  I did see “U2” in ’99 or 2000, they were AMAZING!  They couldn’t be on a metal & hard rock list though.

http://loudwire.com/top-hard-rock-metal-live-acts/

 

“Beck” preforms with “Gary Glitter” playing Garry Glitter’s 1979 hit “Cars”

 

Went to see “The Meg” with my brother.  Have you seen “Jaws” from the 1970s?  Either way, watch that for a shark movie.  Rachel wasn’t feeling great & stayed home.  Kim didn’t want to see the movie.  We went to my parents’ place for supper & met up with Kim there.

The Meg, we expected it to be a little loopy, my brother prefers “Deep Blue Sea” to “The Meg”.  I’ll leave it at that.  I did notice the odd nod to “Jaws” though.  Fun action movie though, not much more to it.

 

PENTATONIX

They have 9 albums out including the 3 Christmas albums.  They’re a 5 part vocal harmony group.  The majority of their stuff is all vocals with no instruments.  I think I’ve heard instruments in 2 or 3 songs, but it’s hard to tell.  They only have one full album of original material.  I’d like more of that but I can also see how that would be difficult in A Capella.  I don’t count the Christmas albums in any type of review but here’s a sampling of the other 6 albums….

 

2012    PTX. VOL.I EP

 

2014   PTX. VOL.II EP

 

2014   PTX. VOL.III EP

 

2015   PENTATONIX

 

2017   PTX. IV: CLASSICS EP

 

2018   PTX Presents: TOP POP VOL. I

 

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